Quarantine has impacted many things, but one underrated thing it has affected is people’s love lives. Whether it be good or bad, everyone is adjusting to the current climate. With shutdown orders still in place in certain states, dating has become a chore. Outdoor activities can be uncomfortable due to the current winter season, and indoor activities are limited in general. How should you adjust? Relationship expert Coltrane Lord joined Bold Life to share some very sound advice.
Focus on self-love
If you are attracting unlikely partners, Lord says now is the perfect time to do the “inner work” that is needed to attract a soulmate.
- Stop criticizing yourself. In the words of RuPaul, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?”
- Stop trying to please others. Many people tend to give more than they receive, and you shouldn’t. Instead, make yourself happy first. Lord says by pleasing yourself, you wind up giving more to others in the end.
- Stop looking for validation. Nobody knows you better than yourself, and now’s the time to really figure out what it is you truly want. Lord says by doing this, you’ll attract somebody who’ll compliment you.
- Focus on the present. Lord recommends people “stop ruminating about the past.” Instead, focus on your emotions at the moment. By keeping your emotions and feelings positive, you’ll end up attracting people that exude the same energy.
Go on a dating diet
You shouldn’t be dating right now, but if you are, you should consider going on a “dating diet.” Skip the awkward socially distanced dates, and go on multiple dates with yourself. Lord says, “If you imagine your perfect soulmate, you have to be that perfect soulmate to actually call them in.” So be that perfect soulmate! Take yourself out, learn about what you truly love and sit back and watch your soulmate arrive.
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